About Us

What is EMAR?

After years of research, trials, focus groups and clients I have learned that the majority of people are looking for these four things: Empowerment, Manifestation, Accountability and Results otherwise known as EMAR.  The challenge that people face is that they did not and still don’t have a role model for empowerment, they don’t recognize or accept their ability to manifest, they have no structures for accountability and thus they are not achieving the results they want.  The common complaint is, “I am not where I thought I would be by now.”  We have the “magic pill”.  The question is, “Do you want it?”

MEET MONIKA

You’re here so you are already one step on the path towards building a life of your dreams.  Let me share with you just a little about who I am so you have a sense of maybe why you found me.  I have been a coach for more than a decade but I began sharing my intention of making a difference in the world when I was four-years-old.

If we are born into environments that are perfectly designed for our growth and development, then I could not have put myself into a better situation.

My Grandmother had hearing aids in both of her ears and I never knew a moment with her that wasn’t yelling about something because she simply couldn’t hear.  Furthermore, cataracts limited her eyesight so I was always looking for her glasses.  Do you remember yourself at four?  For my Grandmother, these issues were just part of the journey, but for me they were problems that needed to be fixed and I was determined to be the one to heal her.
Although my path took many twists, and turns I never strayed away from the clarity of my original intention of making a difference in the world.

My journey has included working in corporations, entertainment, education, restaurants, catering, retail, hospitals, health clinics, as a researcher for diabetes and cancer, a volunteer and a philanthropist.
I have had my share of mountains to climb, roadblocks to move through, trials and tribulations of varying degrees, and I recognize that each moment on my journey, these were exactly the learning opportunities I needed to provide the experience and tools which have enabled me to work through pretty much anything in my school of life.
And this is where I meet you.
Wherever you may be in your own unique, sometimes complicated, and diverse life curriculum, it is my pleasure to explore, discover, climb, uncover, and celebrate the next steps on your journey.  Maybe you will have to go far, or maybe you will find what you dream in your own back yard, either way, I am ready to go looking with you.

The question is, “Are you willing to take this step?”
Have a look deeper and see if the pages within this site assist you in taking that step.

With love, blessings and encouragement,
Monika Zands

 

 About Life Architects 

As a Life Architect, my personal mission is to support you in:

• Creating deeper, more fulfilling, and a more open sense of trust with the people you’re closely connecting with
• Giving you the tools and “know how” that will assist you in cultivating the healthy relationships you’ve always wanted, that will grow from here on out
• Experiencing more interest, respect, and empowerment with your present relationships, and having these feelings stem from a place of love

No matter how you answered the above questions, it’s important for you to understand that I never think “people are broken” or that a person’s relationship “isn’t working.”

In fact, I’ll go as far to say that you don’t even need to change!

(How many stereotypical psychology majors say that?)

The real question instead of asking, “How do I need to change?” is “What do you want?”

By asking yourself, “What do I want, and what am I willing to do about it?” is when your journey becomes very authentic and rejuvenating…and more opportunities open up so you can start becoming who you want to be!

My goal with our experience together (whether it be online or in person) is that you get closer to the hidden, untapped resources that you already have inside of yourself in order to get the relationships with people that you have always dreamed of!

If you can feel something inside of yourself really wanting this, and wanting to learn more, then I’d like to offer you a valuable and personal gift – a free 30 minute introductory phone call (valued at $75.00) that’s all about your personal empowerment!

I mean, have you ever thought, “I don’t want to pay something if I might not get the value I want out of it”?

And how often do you read something online and feel like, “I wish I could get a sense of what this is all about before making any kind of commitment?”

Because I’ve been through all that… and it’s not fun!

This is why I’ll do everything I can to make sure you get value, empowerment, and rejuvenation out of our call …with no obligation to continue when it’s time to part.

So either way, you’ll leave with either a new coach, or with a new friend. J

Since I have just given you this call and made a commitment to you…

Your next step is to make the commitment to yourself and give this call to you, and we’ll schedule a time to talk. You have nothing to lose…and potentially your entire life to gain!

Contact me at [phone number] now and take the first step toward cultivating your extraordinary relationship!

 

About Spiritual Psychology

Spiritual Psychology is the study and practice of the art and science of human evolution in consciousness. In order to fulfill this quest, we must begin by distinguishing the essence of human evolution—what does it mean to evolve? In short, it means surrendering anything in consciousness that disturbs one’s peace. It also means sacrificing our illusions of separation. Essentially, this “surrendering” and “sacrificing” is work that can and has been called “healing,” which includes healing on the physical, mental, and emotional levels in service to the deeper revelation of who we truly are as Loving, Peaceful, Compassionate and Joyful beings. We refer to this level of awareness as the Authentic Self.

If you look up the word “psyche” in the dictionary, you will find “breath, principle of life, soul.” But if you look up “psychology,” you will find “the science of mind and behavior.” Somehow, in the translation from essence to practice, the most important aspect of “psyche” has been lost.  The study of Spiritual Psychology bridges this gap allowing one to reclaim and integrate the spiritual dimension as essential to an authentic psychological inquiry.

 

 

About NLP

NLP is an oddly complicated name that actually describes one of the easiest, most fun, and most effective ways of understanding the human mind ever discovered.

So… what  is this “NLP-thing” that seems to make peoples’ problems “magically” disappear?

NLP is such a wide and intense field you may have heard the rumors that it can do things such as get rid of phobias in one hour, release negative emotions and limiting decisions from the past, and help you transform into an expert communicator.

Those rumors are absolutely true, and they just barely scratch the surface of what NLP has been doing for people.

Something you may have noticed if you’ve been studying NLP for, well, any amount of time is that a lot of people have a hard time defining what NLP actually is.

Let’s start out with a simple, easy-to-understand example. Pretend you’re working with MS Word on your computer. Now, if you wanted to, you could go out and buy a user’s manual and completely understand 100% of everything about how Word works. But what do we normally do instead? We sit down and use Word the same way we would use a typewriter. We usually don’t go out of our way to understand all the nitty-gritty stuff behind the program. (In other words, we paid $100’s for the software, and are probably only using about $5 worth.)

The thing is, when we’re born, we don’t have the option of purchasing a user’s manual on how to use our brain. From that point on, we just sort of guess and develop our own brain while growing up. We therefore install our own programs inside us – things like our beliefs, habits, and values – into our unconscious mind.

In fact, when we’re young, our environment takes over most of the installation process for us, and installs our programs from sources like our family, friends, TV, school, the Internet, and more.

(As you might imagine, over a course of a life-time that can cause some interesting problems….)

NLP is your own personal user’s manual that demonstrates, step-by-step, how to get rid of those problems and reprogram your brain!

It’s one of the most powerful things I know of that helps you understand how you process information, make sense of the world, and how you’re getting your current results, whether they’re good or bad (although if you’re reading this page, I can guess there’s at least one area of your life, whether it be your career, relationship, health, etc, where your results are…well… “bad,” and so you’re looking to do something a little different.)

The techniques in NLP work with a wide variety of different things that can absolutely transform your life. For example, here are 2 problems that are prevalent for so many people that I can almost guarantee you have dealt with at least one of them so far in your life:

1. PROCRASTINATION: Did you know procrastination is the # 1 most universal challenge people in America have?

What if you could end procrastination, not only in yourself, but also in everyone you know, permanently and forever, in just a matter of minutes? Imagine if you could re-program your mind so the next time you felt procrastination, your brain instantaneously jumped to feeling totally motivated, inspired, and excited! Just think about how many more things you could get done if you trained your brain to, every time it felt procrastination, to jump to motivation? According to Tony Robbins, the best-known success coach in the world, “I built my sales career from zero to become the world best motivator by using NLP.”

2. FEAR OF SPEAKING: Using NLP can also develop you to become a powerful communicator.

It takes you from a place of, “I don’t know much of anything about my mind and emotions…” and gives you a complete tool set and total understanding of how to communicate, not only with other people, but with your own unconscious mind as well.

(In fact, NLP has done so much to transform the way people communicate; you could say it’s done as much for communication today as the telephone did over 100 years ago.)

With NLP you can overcome these, not only in yourself, but in the people you work with, in just a matter of minutes!

How much would your life improve if you knew how to become incredibly persuasive, and always knew how to clearly get your message across, no matter what? These tools can absolutely empower you in that way! Oprah Winfrey, the #1 talk show host in the world says, “NLP helps me to manage audiences and motivate them. It is just amazing.”

So, how does NLP work? One of the first questions I get while talking about NLP is, “Is it therapy?”

It is not. However, it was based on the same idea that traditional therapy was originally based on, which is, “How can I effectively get rid of my problems?”

So then what is the difference between NLP and therapy?

Traditional therapy tries to solve problems by mainly focusing on expressing them, and investigating how and when the problem started. However, knowing how a problem started doesn’t necessarily tell you how to solve it (as millions of unhappy people who have spent years and years in traditional therapy will tell you.)

NLP, on the other hand, focuses on the solution, rather than the explanations. It gives you a model of how the mind works, and provides tools that work on the unconscious level that provides rapid change. This means your natural, gut instinct is to do the things you actually want to do, instead of things you’ve been doing your entire life that just aren’t producing the results you want.

People have used the techniques in NLP to do things such as get rid of phobias, overcome addictions, and go from feeling unhappy to completely releasing emotional baggage from the past.

Plus, the thing that makes the techniques in NLP so amazing is you can often get these results at any time within a few minutes to a few hours!

So, how does NLP work so well? Who discovered it, and why aren’t I reading about it until now?

Psychology works.

People thought the purpose behind psychology was really good. But there were still people who had done psychology for 20 years and their lives still were miserable. For example, someone might go in to see a psychologist to get rid of a phobia, and after about 10 years worth of sessions the phobia is still there. Then another five years later the phobia has disappeared.

People in NLP thought there must be a faster way to do this. In order to understand how to do these methods faster, they went to the history and looked at how the methods became developed in the first place.

Thank goodness for psychology, and is there a way we can get the same positive results, but speed up the process, and make it so people can actually feel *good* during the process, as opposed to spending extensive amounts of time thinking about childhood problems they had with their mother?

The answer is yes.

NLP was developed back in the early 1970’s by two gentleman; John Grinder Ph.D.- professor of linguistics at the university of Santa Cruz, and Richard Bandler – mathematician and computer genius. These men were asked by Gregory Bateson – (anthropologist) to study some of the therapeutic techniques of three of the best therapists of that time; Virginia Satir – family therapy, Fritz Perls – Gestalt therapy, and Milton Erickson – Foremost clinical hypnotherapist. What they created was a model of their success of change work with clients. These therapists helped individuals change the negative habits and limited thinking which held them back from producing the results they intended or couldn’t motivate themselves to follow through on.

This leaves a lot of people wondering what the difference between NLP Coaching and therapy is.  Maybe you’ve already tried therapy, and it didn’t work for you. I’ve heard about numerous people going into a traditional therapy session feeling bad, spending an hour talking about all the grave details of why their life sucks, and then come out of the session feeling worse.

Here is how is NLP is different from traditional therapy.

What if you could end procrastination, not only in yourself, but also in everyone you know, permanently and forever, in just a matter of minutes? Imagine if you could re-train your mind so the next time you felt procrastination, your brain instantaneously jumped to feeling totally motivated, inspired, and excited!

According to ‘Psychology Today, “NLP is the most powerful vehicle for change in the 21st Century!”

Since NLP could quite possibly be the most important development in human understanding in the last century, let’s define Neuro-Linguistic Programming a little more:

Neuro: Our nervous system, which we use to experience the world through our five senses.

Linguistic: The language we use to communicate and give our experiences meaning.

Programming: Discovering and using the programs, habits, and strategies we run in our mind in order to achieve our desired results.

So, what does that mean?

It means we can reprogram our mind, the same way we can reprogram a computer. When we buy a computer, we get an owner’s manual that teaches us how to use it. However, our brain is the most amazing computer on the planet, but when we’re born, nobody gives us a owner’s manual for it!

NLP is your own personal owner’s manual. It’s the most powerful thing that I know of that can get you quick and astonishing results in whatever you set out to do!

Most people have at least one particular thing in their life that they really want to accomplish. One thing that you would do almost anything to achieve, and if you were to accomplish it, it would mean the world to you! I’m not sure what that thing is for you. However, I’m 100% congruent that learning NLP can make that journey quicker, and more empowering as you set out to make those changes!

Now, there’s only so much you can learn about NLP by just sitting at your computer and reading about it. If you really want to learn it then you have to get your hands into it and experience it. I invite you to have a session and take a look at how NLP makes a dramatic shift in your life.

I’d like to welcome you to the world of NLP. I look forward to seeing you around!